Training Children

When i comes to training kids it is very different from what we talked about in class about training pets.  I feel that you don’t so much train children.  children learn mostly by example, “watch and learn.”  I typed in training children in into google and went into the first link i saw and these were some “supposed guidelines” for training children:

  • Be reasonable and fair in your requests.
  • Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
  • Be vigilant.
  • Be just in your discipline.
  • An immediate, negative consequence is usually best (because it is easily understood and free from psychological repercussions).
  • Be merciful in overlooking genuine accidents, as well as when you observe genuine repentance.
  • Be consistent.
  • Be loving always and especially so when your child is behaving well.

I looked at these few guidelines and i kept thinking that this is something that Cesar would say on the dog whisperer.  some of it doesn’t make sense to me mainly because it sounds like dog training.  you have to guide the child and teach it a lot of things but you have to remember its a child not an animal and you should treat it like one.  so if your child spills a drink on the floor don’t say “Tsst” and reprimand with a stern voice, guide and show the child what you should do in a certain situation.

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2 Comments so far

  1.   salvarez on February 25th, 2010

    I wish you would have posted the site to where you got these. Notice what the advice claims: sound like concerted cultivation or natural growth?

    Training one’s child is another way for saying disciplining one’s child, or even “raising” one’s child. The best term for the process is called “socialization.” This is what happens to us gradually as children, and continues to always happen to us as we move in the social world.

    You should keep in mind how KIPP trains students . . . to sit up straight, to listen, track speakers with their eyes, and the like. For KIPP, it’s sort of like, how much training does it take to untrain the bad habits working-class and poor children have taken on.

  2.   salvarez on March 16th, 2010

    Keep writing my friend, it’s been a while since you posted anything. Do some free writes. And post some of the quizes you’ve done already–just filling up your blog is the point, so it’s okay to use some writing you’ve already done.

    As for this blog, again, what about this in the advice you found:

    :» An immediate, negative consequence is usually best (because it is easily understood and free from psychological repercussions).”

    Would Lareau call this a concerted cultivation or natural growth technique. Consider how a “negative consequence” works as a form of training for animals and children, but also how it doesn’t necessarily mean “reasoning” with the child.

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